’ Through Him each part of the body is joined and knitted together by every supporting ligament so that every part of the body may function as it should, building itself up in love ‘ Ephesians 4:16
CHALLENGING CHANGE
THE HORSE OR THE CART?
I’m struggling to know where to start. Do I need to deal with what I do first or do I start with why I do it before I can move on to how to fix it? How can one process exist in isolation from the other? They are all intertwined afterall. An immediate vision springs to mind: I think of the magnificent Ebony trees that I have encountered over the years when on safari in South Africa. I draw parallels between the tree and myself. I see the solid trunk that I aliken to my central core, my soul, that…
NOTHING VENTURED, NOTHING GAINED
Today has been a bad day. No different to many hundreds, if not thousands of days like it in my past, but perhaps I am just more aware of what I do thus heightening my negative self talk and disappointment in myself. I have struggled to focus or concentrate on anything , have felt restless and somewhat anxious. Most days I am just numb. I operate on rote – its Groundhog Day over and over again. Being alone exacerbates and increases the behaviour but I am not forced to seek isolation. It’s something I have always been drawn to and…
AVOIDANCE
Avoidance, as defined in the Oxford Living Dictionary, is a noun meaning ‘ The action of keeping away from or not doing something ‘. Expert , adjective, is described as ‘ having a great deal of skill in a particular area ‘. I am expert in avoidance
WHEN DOES THE PENNY DROP?
What does it take to finally elicit change? How many warnings, negative incidents, anxiety fuelled moments of panic and despair do we need to experience before we let go of unhealthy practices? Why do we self-sabotage our lives until we reach a point of desperation? Do we have to reach that point before we are ready to implement radical measures to undo past behaviour? These are all questions that lie unanswered because I think it’s different for all people. Just as a conversion to faith may be instantaneous and dramatic for some, it can be more subtle and gradual…
Small Steps
“ Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future “ Robert H Schuller
A FRESH START
Hi, I’m Belinda. I have decided to start a blog, primarily for me as I hope that this will incentivise me and hold me accountable for some very necessary changes in my life. I emphatically believe in freedom of choice and we all have to accept the consequences of choices in our lives that haven’t necessarily been the best for us. This is very normal behaviour and when we realise that certain choices are impacting negatively on our behaviour, you’d think we would move away from those choices, wouldn’t you? WRONG! Sometimes we get so caught up and stuck…