One of the biggest impediments and stumbling block to change has to be the concept of guilt. Whilst a conscience and realisation of something untoward that one may have done is good because it elicits some degree of culpability, feeling guilty about it doesn’t necessarily have the same desired effect. The former is likely to be something one has said or done that wounds another. The latter in many instances is about one’s behaviour ( eating or drinking too much, overspending, neglecting chores to rather sleep in or watch daytime TV etc ) and this is where the term ‘…
Year: 2018
AN INDISSOLUBLE BOND
’ Through Him each part of the body is joined and knitted together by every supporting ligament so that every part of the body may function as it should, building itself up in love ‘ Ephesians 4:16
THE HORSE OR THE CART?
I’m struggling to know where to start. Do I need to deal with what I do first or do I start with why I do it before I can move on to how to fix it? How can one process exist in isolation from the other? They are all intertwined afterall. An immediate vision springs to mind: I think of the magnificent Ebony trees that I have encountered over the years when on safari in South Africa. I draw parallels between the tree and myself. I see the solid trunk that I aliken to my central core, my soul, that…
NOTHING VENTURED, NOTHING GAINED
Today has been a bad day. No different to many hundreds, if not thousands of days like it in my past, but perhaps I am just more aware of what I do thus heightening my negative self talk and disappointment in myself. I have struggled to focus or concentrate on anything , have felt restless and somewhat anxious. Most days I am just numb. I operate on rote – its Groundhog Day over and over again. Being alone exacerbates and increases the behaviour but I am not forced to seek isolation. It’s something I have always been drawn to and…
PEARLS
Though I may harm my body, nothing can harm my soul.
THE REAL QUESTION
Safari – 18 Jan 2018 at 16:51 I read this article in The Times this morning and it stopped me in my tracks. I have been telling myself for years that I need to put on weight in order to be healthy. 2017 was an extremely challenging year for me health-wise and for my family anyway, there was this tacit assumption that my health issues were related to my low body weight and choices I have made over the years regarding my diet. So for me, that elusive , pie in the sky blanket statement that so many of…
MY STRENGTH
my strength
PROCRASTINATION
” Prayer is not our most natural response to the world. Left to our own impulses, we will always want to do something else before we pray. “ Henri Nouwen
AVOIDANCE
Avoidance, as defined in the Oxford Living Dictionary, is a noun meaning ‘ The action of keeping away from or not doing something ‘. Expert , adjective, is described as ‘ having a great deal of skill in a particular area ‘. I am expert in avoidance
RAISE THE ALARM!
I watched a trespassing cat in my garden in France this afternoon as it clumsily ( it was a rather portly cat )attempted to stalk the little tits that frequent my bird-feeder. The birds immediately sent out a chorus of warning signals until the danger had passed. Wouldn’t it be amazing if humans did likewise, rallying round each other, looking out for each other , constantly vigilant and issuing warnings whenever the slightest hint of danger seemed apparent. So often we become insular, looking the other way, scared to offend or interfere, looking after our own but neglecting our neighbour.…